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Get More Responses. Download Your. Schedule A Quick Call. More Responses. Better Dates. I will need to learn how to actually enjoy being alone, not just endure it. And I need to spend as much of my time and energy as possible in earning more money. Thanks for all you do Bobbi. At this time in life we all have crappy baggage. Give this a read and give yourself a break! Do some work on getting to know your beautiful feminine self. As we all are. She just wants validation and is needy but will never meet anyone.
These types always latch on to me. I wasted over 2 years on dating sites and finally learned my lesson after hundreds of dollars down the tubes. Dating sites are just a way to suck money out of men.
You mainly have scammers, Pros and clowns to deal with. A man needs a woman when his young to give him the motivation to succeed so he can provide for her and children if applicable. He just wants a best friend. If you get married your wife should be your best friend. Makes the marriage go better I am told. I think growing old alone is the worst way to die. When I turned 29 she left me for some guy she just met.
They have two children now. I tried online dating and found it to be a really bad experience. After a couple weeks I gave up as it was making me depressed and ruining my self esteem. Myself, I am sorry for your loneliness and frustration.
If you want to have a relationship with a woman you will have to start asking them out. The vast majority of women, especially your age, are NOT going to make the first move. I encourage you to go online, ask women out for coffee or a drink if you find them interesting, and see where it goes.
They either accept or reject your offer of coffee and you move on. And make sure your profile has nice pictures and reflects the best, most positive side of you. You completely missed the whole point of his comment. He DID ask women out. Many of them. Did you read his comment? He said after a couple weeks he gave up. He needs to build his own confidence then women will notice without him really asking.
He mentioned in his comment that dating at work is off limits! I think when a company has a no dating within the workplace policy it is more exciting to pursue it. We can always find a different job if that person turns out to be our future spouse and best friend.
I feel for ya, I really do. I have pretty much given up on the dating thing as well, but after a couple of years really trying. At times I go to bed early to just get the day over with. Learn some new things so you can do the dating thing a little differently. Rooting for you! Its not learning new things to do on a date. It is not having a date and rejection is the issues at least for me. Day late and dollar short. We all still have hope because we are one this site.
I just started thinking about it seriously and have begun doing some due diligence. Which has led me to this site.
Why not consider that the lady for you could be just deciding to date herself in ? Never give up!! No white flags!! Absolutely DD! Never give up. But also change things up if things are not working. I read your article while randomly looking for articles to help me put away bitterness of being forced alone again.
I was broadsided out of nowhere with a dump text on my 47th birthday weekend by my fiance of 9 years and am still haunted by the pain of this almost a year later. We have not communicated since. Please know my questions are not meant to be rude, hurt, or drudge up anything negative. Not the paranoid nosy though. I apologize if it does. About the Sexpot type…. I just wish to add EXTRA emphasis that not all men are going to go for sex on the first date, and it can be for profound reasons.
He also said that the key to having a great sexual relationship with a partner was communication, and that communication takes time to develop. He admitted to me that some women dumped him for saying this early on in some of his dating experiences after 40, but he stayed on course.
He only likes relationship sex. Not that he has any issues with consenting adults who connect casually. As soon as he said this to me, I realized I had a guy on my hands with a tremendous amount of emotional maturity. We are physical now, and I have never felt more spiritually, emotionally and physically connected to a guy in my life.
And another thing…. I met my guy online, where I am well aware that one of the biggest red flags in polls is avoiding men who have never been married after Women have to understand that the overwhelming majority of us have kids thru biology or adoption by the time we hit He simply felt it was unfair to wreck her dreams of starting a family by lying to her that he wanted a family just so he could have a girlfriend and a sex partner. He had seen other males do this and found the behavior awful.
These guys were lying — emotionally investing their female partners in a dream that would never come true. And he just ran into bad luck. Others only wanted to date men who had kids already. Let them tell their side of the story. Because if I had done so, I would be missing out on a wonderful relationship. So he focused on other things.
He did volunteer work and such, and he has a number of unique interests. These women who dumped him really screwed up. Jeanette S. Thanks for sharing your story, Jeannette. Your points here are very important. Concur with these categorizations — interesting, thoughtful, illuminating — yet also highly amusing. I find your categorizing women totally offensive. To think that all women fall into your archaic versions of how women are regarding men is an insult to every woman…. This is a pathetic post….
Women are much more than our value to men…. Shame on you for spewing your shit. Good luck finding any good man who wants a mean girl. Jennifer, I think you just proved her point there, Bitter Gal. Perhaps constructive criticism would be more helpful than personal attacks on someone. You been hurt we get it. Spend time with yourself to find out why you are so angry. Not health to be that mad and attempt to shame someone for Freedom Of Speech.
Dating is very different in your 40's & 50's, so let's look as some of the unique issues and find a way to navigate the waters!. For those women over 50 who are reentering the dating scene, it's hard to know what to expect. Our expert dating coaches let you know the six. For those of you in your 40s or 50s who are recently divorced, widowed, or just eager to re-partner, dating again can be daunting. Perhaps it's.
That some of them have self-defeating aspects to their personality as it regards their dating and relationships. Being excessively harsh and judgementel is not a good look for anyone. I am a 39 year old single mother.
I thought I was doing it all right in my youth. I went to college, I met my husband at church, we waited to have sex until marriage. I supported him in his career endeavors, moving around the country to follow where his career took us.
I worked when I had to, and when I could stay home with our son I was very grateful. I loved being a mother and I loved being a wife. We eventually decided to start a business together.
I needed up working on the business from home while he worked at the office. It was a dream. Until he had an affair and fell in love with one of our employees. I wanted to save the marriage. He ended up hiring a lawyer and would not agree to just settle outside of court. In the end, he left me destitute. I just wanted to get through it so I could rebuild my life and provide for our son. I literally went from being on food stamps, mediCal, and having a childcare subsidy to being the second in command over a multimillion dollar medical facility.
Though I did not fight in court, I rerouted that energy and fought for my life instead. I went to back to school. I worked hard. I now pay child support to my former husband because I make more than both him and his wife combined they both still work at the company we had started. I would much rather be my old self again, and have my family back together.
People change. Circumstances change. My former husband and I were very much in love once. It was so easy when I was younger. Dear Accidentally Alone, Your comment… wow! I hate that you feel alone, scared and worried. I just wanted to somehow relay what an amazing woman you are- hold your head up high, Sista. I applaud you!
I Had to say something when I read your comment. So much of your story and perspective mirrored my own journey and I wanted to say thank you for sharing. I find that there is a lot fear and guardedness in both men and women I talk to in the single scene. Most folks have been hurt in one way or another. I hope you keep reaching out and not give up. I believe the rewards are SO worth it in overcoming the internal fears. There are good men and women out there.
Keep the faith. Ghosting is a huge difficulty with online dating and modern communication in general. I hear it from men and women. It is very discouraging to want to continue meeting people online if you experience a couple of ghosts. If more people would do that it would be a better dating culture. Giving each person closure after each connection is kind and fosters them being open to the next connection.
Dating in your 40s and 50s is a little bit different than when you were in your twenties. The giddy excitement and nervous anticipation can still.
Anyone else feel that way? Hi Teresa.
What Dating After 40 Is Like for Men (Advice for Women)
Enjoy it. When it does, it will be the lovely icing on your cake. Been apart from my ex for 6 years. I dress nice, am friendly and I realize the pool is extremely small. I prefer ladies between 48 and Almost all are married or in a relationship. Online dating is horrible. Step back and reevaluate? Any ideas? You sound just like the women I coach. Ladies: what kind help can you give Tim? It discouraged me and stopped looking for a partner.
As for the type of feminist, not sure either one would describe me found elements in though ; I find online dating exhausting, time consuming and very frustrating. I focus my time now with joining hobby groups.
I love outdoors, hiking, Travelling, beach walking. Al you have done here is boxed women into caricatures and stereotypes. How about discussing the man who is the perpetual Peter Pan and at over 50, still believes he has everything in common with a 20 year old or the over 50 year old narcissist who only knows how to be taken care of but knows nothing about how to be in a monogamous mutual loving relationship.
Looks a lot like you are blaming women here! Very disappointing! And the best way to do that is to start from a place of empathy, not anger or bitterness. Both divorced and have kids but none together. After the first 7 years I learn he has a friend with benefits in another country.
He sees this girl twice a year and she is a groupie. Or are his actions due to his insecurities and distrust of women and his own weaknesses? This is how you can learn to walk away: He is not going to change.
Probably ever. So you either fully accept who he is and what he does, or you leave. Or stay stuck and miserable trying to change him. Those are your only 3 choices as I see it. I do not know why this man is doing what he does.
You are correct, that your unwillingness to walk away from this admitted cheater is probably rooted in your childhood experience. Worth exploring with a counselor I suggest. Best of luck — Bp. The reason you are getting this wrong is the same reason everybody else gets relationships wrong. You think the problem is about him when its about you. Whatever you feel about yourself you will attract into your life and you will seemingly feel like its a fit for you even though you might not like it.
I see a little bit of myself in each of the categories, because after all, I am a woman. I am older but still attractive and young at heart. I am not usually interested in men my age, because they can be negative and set in their ways. This is the biggest turnoff. We women want a man who is truly interested in us as a person first.
We want to be treated with respect and kindness. Those are the main things, and then if we have something in common, we can maybe begin a relationship.
It does take time! One important thing for me, and I believe most women, is to have regular contact with the guy. If a man wants to get a woman interested, he needs to call just about every day, not out of duty, but if he is interested, this is the best way to start a relationship. I like men a few years younger, mainly because they have more vitality. Sorry, but bombarding women with messages is not good advice. Nice article and yes the comments are worth reading.
Dated on and off, mostly thru POF and other sites. Having to maintain daily contact, plan for time together, integrate lives, etc. Lots of guys start out early in a conversation texting or talking about sex and asking for sexy pictures. Good luck in your search. I advise my friends to avoid stereotyping based on dating experiences and be happy with their single status. I am so glad to have stumbled upon this article mostly for these comments. I have since dated 2 other men. I treasured the last man, but yes combining lives and making time was becoming to frustrating at this time.
I still have a teenage daughter at home and know that I need to remain single until she is a bit older. It can feel overwhelming at times when you want to have the male counterpart to reach out and connect with and do not have. But making time to just be me for my kids and myself is of utmost importance at this time.
I appreciate these comments, because there are so many of us out here wanting to share ourselves. Yet, we here we are single. I am going to make the most of this kind of time to be me and grow! Thank you for your response I truly appreciated reading it.
It sounds incredible, but it is true.
Single women in their 40s and 50s are increasingly feeling that their love lives are over as men their own age use online dating to cherry-pick. Local Singles Group Fun Love Laughter. Fitness at 40,50,60 and Beyond. Your username and password will be the same for any sites marked with the Mamba logo. Dating in your 50s: It's about starting over. Aug. Dating after 40 or 50 means taking control of your love life, just like you do the rest of your life.
I should have been playing the lottery with them odds. Have never had anyone set me up on a date and the few friends I had, their wife or gf never ever have any single friends. I live in eastern Washington and its a desert for dating.
I have sent out hundreds and hundreds of messages and never a reply. I see where they look at my profile and nothing else. The few that ever wrote to me I did not find attractive in the least, but I would reply that I am not interested instead of just tossing their message in the trash like how it is done to me. Couples do things with couples, its a fact and just how it is.
I never wanted to be alone, but here I am. Always look around but never see much, either to young or to married or dating. End of this year will be the start of my 8th year without a single date. So from about age 35 to 65 there is nothing at all for singles. I do understand the complexity of the church doing anything for singles.
I go to bars now and then for a drink, but will not date a women from there. Its like the dating life style is gone away. To me there is a pattern forming from talk with men of different age groups. So, I got no clue any more, tired of doing everything by myself, but its not like I got a choice. I think when I retire I will move to another country where I can find a women who wants a good man and not a bad boy. No place to meet good men. There are so many girls out there that will put out on a first date or are just wanting FWB.
Dating after 40 stinks! It was a matter of picking the best one out of a few choices. The biggest strongest man got the most beautiful woman and the second best got the second best woman and so on until every man and woman in the tribe had a match. Believe it or not women were most likely happier and even in recent times we can see they were more happier in this type of environment that ended with feminism.
Humans are horrible with choices and always do much better when they have no choices.
The idea that people want more choices is lunacy because then no choice is ever made. I should have invested money into match and other dating services because they will be busy as long as this type of society exists. However the collapse of this type of society eventually comes because the family unit has been destroyed. Congrats America! Yes things have changed. You might want to try it. I agree with Jim! And just because you or others think its a GOOD thing — is a subjective conclusion.
Was that wrongI just wanted to feel the caring part of a relationship. I tried online dating, it made me depressed. You spend all this time reading profiles and writing messages that get no response or a one word reply. After a while you lower your standards and finnaly get a date with someone who turns out to be morbidly obese with three kids and 40k in debt.
You try to make the best if it, hoping that they have a good personality…. In not interested in sex outside of a long term relationship but women always. Jake, thanks for sharing your experiences.
For the record, the women I work with and who ARE online, are attractive, smart and accomplished. But just know that there are good women online who are looking for a nice man. Fortunately for me I do not see myself in any of these types. I have had seasons of friendships with woman who fit some of the above types- hence why it was a season of friendship. It surprises me that woman over 40 still struggle with these behaviors. It is making me feel more equipped for dating any way.
Perhaps this is why many of them are complaining about men they are dating? They are not looking inward at the perception men have of them only outward. Like attracts like.
These are understandable undesirable traits! I Was married for a long time. I dated briefly when a wonderful man unexpectedly came into my life it was shortly after filing for divorce, the timing was off -as I really needed time in between. So I took a year to heal and completely let go of my marriage, get to know me again, enjoy myself take on some new adventures found some new passions and figured out who I am now as opposed to when I got married abandoned what it is that I want in life.
I have become very happy and comfortable in my own skin and now I am Interested in dating again. If this is my competition I should do well hahahahah! I have been all of these types. I am all of these types. Fromit all depends on where the man met me that I hit on that range. You have no other mind, no other purpose. I have been single for a very long time, because I want a best friend. It has to be shown. It has to be felt. Am a single mother am 28yrs ofage i have a grown up son of 11am i.
A relationship with. Debbie, unless you have an in-person not just text email or phone relationship with this man, and he has spent significant time with you and your son, again, in person, then you do not have a real-life relationship, no matter what he promises or what you wish for.
If your just looking in America that is. Having traveled outside the US to many other countries I can tell you there are decent women out there even at this age and they still have class. In America and other countries following the American footsteps ie Australia and a lot of European countries.
They have been divorced and have a ton of problems and the next guy they land they will always suspect he is doing the same thing the scumbag she left is doing. After they finally leave the scum bag, they move onto another scumbag bad boy and the same repeats itself. Next thing is sadly, American women love to copy one another and that is having a bunch of tattoos and dressing like trash.
I mean come on, us men are expected to not be pigs and have good hygiene right? Maybe have a different wardrobe other then cargo or capri pants. I am white and I am sickened by the amount of low class types in my own race.
If you were born with a missing limb, deaf, cleft palate, MS, blind or some other birth defect its completely different and I personally overlook this because this is not the persons fault. At the same time, putting a cow ring through your nose is and tells everyone you are starving for attention and you probably need mental help.
All it takes now is for some woman to make a false claim you did something to her and everything you ever worked for is GONE. The biggest lie most of the men are told is that women are always after a guy who has his life in order. So far from the truth. Much like going outside with wet hair and being told you will get sick because of it.
Women expect us men to bring a bunch to the table in a relationship, maybe we expect the same in return. What is dating like for a guy over 40? Not good. And that is better answered by a guy and not a woman. No offense BP. Wow, Matt. Good women sense negativity. I dated in my 40s as a single mom and found a good guy, also with lots of baggage.
After 4 years we will be marrying in a few months and blending our families. Kind of have to open your heart a bit too, take a risk, stop judging, and shell out some empathy. I am 41 single, never been married, no kids, no pets, no debts. I am not responsible for my parents as they are very well off and traveling the world. My last bf was from 9yrs ago who is from the Netherlands. Sure, I dated but never really found someone I was super interested in.
I live all over the world for a decade now US for spring and fall, S. It was very interesting, thanks to all these dating apps, it made it easier to meet someone all the time. Since I became 40, I rarely date.
I am comfortable being alone. I accept that if one day I never find my partner that I am okay. For me, my happiness is more important than anything. I would like to meet someone who is happy with themselves, kind to others, reliable, consistent, interesting, who appreciates traveling the world.Dating in Your 40's, 50's and 60's!
Currently, I am exploring this new dating chapter of being 41 and so far I am liking it. However, I am keeping positive at the moment! And thanks for that, someone needs to have children. Oh, it could be nice to meetsome one….
Should I get into a relationship and let my mood potentionally go to a roller coaster state of mind, hight peaks and low vallies? I pick him up for lunch and we used to go to the movies and dinner but he stopped wanting to go out with me.
He still enjoys having lunch with me and calls me on the phone if I ask him to call me. He has a biological child and step children with his ex. She asks him for money for all the kids even though she twice as much as he does and he is always spending his time and money with her family and then complains about it.
All I had said was that I wanted us to get to know each other better. I did try to stop talking to him but it seems that when I start walking away he will start talking to me, to reel me back in. Confused, he probably really enjoys your company and the attention you give him. This article will help you understand why he does this, but if you want a long term, committed relationship you will need to cut ties with this guy for good and move on.
But worse is knowing that when she gets board with me etc and moves on I will lose contact. I tried online dating and it made me really depressed, reading the lists of demands on womens profiles and sending well thought out messages that never got a response was grueling and was giving me a low opinion of women so I stopped. Next year I turn 30 and will officially call it quits, most of my friends already have. I get your reasons and they make sense to me! Get out there, hone your flirting skills and make the first move, like a gentleman.
Good luck! Fair valid points here, but you have missed one very important point which seems to plague Essex and beyond in the United Kingdom. A lot of women are Money orientated beyond hope. The young 18 year olds with high expectations as mentioned above and that goes right through it would seem appear to older ladies as well. Brad Pitt lookalike, shitty personality and money and your in. Which is a shame as if the ladies looked beyond the money and shallowness they would find some real honest kind men in Essex that could actually show them Love.
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It familiar with Essex specifically, but I work with women all over the world. Certainly not the Grownup women here. The thousands of women I support are far beyond looking for a rich Brad Pitt. They, too, are looking for companionship and love. Look for these women. They, like good men, are everywhere! He has a point and it is a thing, even with older women. There should be a category in your article for that or at least a mention.
I have just joined the 40 club this year and reading this for warning signs as well as how to attract 40 something yr old man.
I have just turned 40 so the bitterness is not quite that intense. I think all the above is important and probably have bits of all. I think it is good not to rush and test the water before jumping in. I also think there is nothing more attractive than a man who is financially independent and not stingy.
Not saying that he needs to be taken advantage of but it feels good to be spoilt by a man from time to time, what is wrong with that?
I also think sex is good, eerrmm, my dear, what is this body for?? If not to be enjoyed??? So yes sex is good, though not looking for an addict not looking for sex priest who will forgive me of my sins before taking the plunge. However keeping scores, tit for tat, is not my thing, no need for point scoring, we can battle in other fun ways.
I am finding that being 40 makes you put things in perspective and ask yourself what you want so I am on a road to self improvement and mental enlightenment but where do I meet that man for cuddles, hugs, dinner and just a fresh air stroll. If you are a man and your priority it to get married and have kids why give that up? Tia, my blog is filled with how and where to meet good men. Also, I get wanting to feel spoiled by a man. But men can be generous with things other than money.
Like, their time, attention, affection, and doing acts of kindness, so maybe expand your idea of generosity? Hope that helps and, at 40, you know yourself well, what you want and what you have to offer so I say go, girl!
How about the triple estrogen breast cancer survivor who is flat due to a mastectomy, has a low sex drive due to an oophorectomy and has scars.
Is admired but undateable. Being in a relationship means who do I need to be to nourish another human being partner or child. How can I help this person achieve the expression of their highest self? Can I see past my list of ideals; see them and honor them by just being present? So many of us wait for a partner to pick us, we give of our time and body to capture their attention yet would you give someone you know for a month your cellphone password?
What is your attachment pattern? Who do you attract? You are never alone. You are in the longest relationship which is with yourself. It can look anyway you want. A hundred years ago we had no options. You are as free as you allow yourself to be. I wish it was easier to find women with a mind like yours.
Thanks for sharing. Why do guys walk away from them? I think each category of woman just needs to meet her match. The princess has self-worth and knows what she wants. More power to her! The scaredy-cat needs someone who can prove themselves trustworthy and is willing to pass some tests.
Why is that so much to ask for? The sex pot needs to find someone who puts sex first as well! I see these categories as a way to describe humans in general. Not a single category is unworthy of love. You have some really good points. No way! Thanks for your comment. I think there is nothing wrong with the types. Nothing wrong with knowing how you expect to be treated, wanting to know you can trust someone or being with someone who finds you attractive.
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It is when they are so extreme that they become self esteem issues, narcissistic personality disorder, paranoia, etc. The man I have been dating over 3 years I feel much respect, and yes, love for. He has a woman roommate who is still jealous of me and I think Jerry is correct that it would be uncomfortable if we were both in his home at the same time.
He has zilch romantic interest in her, but seems afraid to kick her out, a sort of protective thing. They share a common interest in keeping the house clean and in order; I live in a small low-income apt, and am not very tidy.
Jerry and I like to camp in his 30 yr old van, ad we have no trouble finding common interests. We are affectionate, tho not nearly as passionate as we once were. We still enjoy singing in choir together, and each pursue our separate interests too. After that I moved to a very rural area and simply never met anyone. I tried online dating but it takes a lot of time and work to even get a reply.
I tried improving myself, I started working out etc and am in the best shape of my life. I went back to school, learned a language. Even taught myself to bake. Is it ok to give up? It seems single men are not very welcome In our society and are viewed with suspicion.
Exact same here Alotofguys. I Had given up after foolishly falling in love with some combination of the mentioned personality types. Thought I had figured it out and Am dating a woman for the last 5 years. She has no savings and I was going to provide for her if she was who I thought she was.
Not sure I can get over it tho. Not sure I should. At this point I no longer see this thing called love as anything other than Anonymously giving, which has nothing to do with a relationship. Arms length, Get a Dog, help some kids and older folks, look for god, and enjoy what is.
Never get married, Ever…somehow the state ends up taking the man for a ride. I am still friends with my ex wife, In my younger years she left for good reason, as did I. Was a rare case of neither of us went after each other afterwards, both of us were wrong and we maintained respect for each other in that honesty after the initial blame games. Great article by the way thanks.
Hats off to the woman with the mastectomy low sex drive and working on herself! Oh, friend… I hear you so loud and clear. We are out here. We are struggling, too, just like you are. Somehow, we just have to figure out how to connect. Keep searching, dear one. To be on the right place at the right time.
Recently divorced, mids guy here. First and foremost, please look like your photo on a first date via an online match. I expect to see the real you I saw in the photo, not something dramatically different than the one in the made-up, professionally done photograph you posted. Second, please just be yourself. Sounds mature and sensible to me!
I barely even consider dating as I see it as a Non starter! Who would want a relationship with Me? I love my kids, but they continue to dominate everything and continue to cause problems with my relationship with my ex.
Wow this was an interesting read but the comments are so depressing as they are mostly people getting divorced or getting out of a long term relationship.
Even had to ask friends to take me to prom back in the day. Joined a bunch of clubs, started new hobbies, volunteer…all the things I think I should do to meet someone.
Even tried every dating app in existence and hired a professional matchmaker that was unable to find any of her clients willing to date me. She was just shocked I hung on for so long before succumbing to depression. So to all of you complaining about dating because you just got divorced…know I would love to be in your shoes! To have someone want me enough to want to date me long term or live with me? You are all very lucky to have experienced it!!!!!
The fear comes from not trusting yourself to make good decisions. Takes time and a commitment to learn some new things about yourself and men if you are going to gain that trust in yourself. Stay here, keep learning, Also read about Attachment Theory to find out what your style might be. Most as you continue talking end up being some creepy weirdo into strange sex and quite honestly are hoping they can treat you like a pig.
Are you over 40 and back in the dating game? Meet an attractive woman today on these 7 best online dating sites for men over If you're a woman dating after 40, it will help you to know what it's like for the I have tried, and will still try to date men in their late 40's even 50's–but most of. While I'm not a 40 or year-old woman, I will say this from my own experience, as a younger male, of dating women in their 40s (and likely.
Many are wishy washy, indecisive, are never upfront with you, and never seem to want to fully commit. My point is men tend to always blame the woman and do not take accountability for their own actions and always make claim they treated their ex like a queen — I call bullshit.
Most important we have a future. Look forward instead of looking back. Most of us are just regular people. We go to work, pay our bills, tend to house, all that fun adult stuff. We or at least I just want a regular man along side of me doing these things. Where are these men that are genuinely looking for companionship?
My job is to help women learn what they need to and give them tools to help them find fantastic relationships. These are limiting beliefs and they have to be clouding your judgement as you meet new men.
Just want to encourage you to be open to the idea that you might be able to take more control over your situation. Hugs, Bp. Us men are not categorizing you. Women have created these categories all on their own, this article just points it out. You are The Bitter Gal lol. Great articke. I will be 47 this year and I am ready to settle down. Throughout the years I did meet wonderful men they do exist but I was not ready or able or afresh to accept those gifts.
Instead I made poor decisions that I knew deep down would eventually end badly. Over the years I had to deal with the physical and mental effects of the domestic violence issue multiple gunshots as well as going back to issues prior. Now after therapy and lots of interior cleaning I am sure I am ready to live my life and have a healthy relationship. Either the natural way or via other options and even adoption. I may be reading your article out of context please forgive me if I am wrong but why does it seem a woman should date older men the 60 year old?
I would be ok with someone close to my age or even younger. There are good men at all age levels, correct? I am thinking from the standpoint of having kids and mutual interests — conversations — friends, etc. I feel as I am with my mothers friends and very lost and uninterested. I like me and my spirit. Yes, I went though a lot but it does not define me. I still see my cup and life as half full. So In the ends I am just wondering what are the first steps? I also move frequently so I am having to build literally everything.
I have decided moving back to Florida recently is a final move. Online dating is so far easily accessible but emotionally draining.
Hi Michelle. Good for you. Keep learning about yourself and about grownup men. And moving adds to your challenge. I know you know your physical limitations about having a child. There are alternatives. My problem is finding a woman over 40 that is physically fit and has been for a while. Someone who will continue to keep fit.
Plastic surgery used in the right way is fine. Big boobs but never spending time in the gym is very unattractive. But being fit is a great way to spend retirement years. I need someone to spend the rest of my healthy, fit life with. Not easy to find which is why many men my age do try to get involved with woman in their mid 30s.
I do disagree that there are no women over 40 who consider health and fitness important. So help yourself to those pretty somethings without stretch marks. Gush, Clifford, you are awful. Say that to any woman of any age and she will be gone before you finished your sentence. Most men ARE very superficial, but I do not want those men at all.
I will soon start looking for a new life… a wise man to share love and life. To connect. If I never find one…well so be it. But unfortunately, even the majority of year-olds are still boys. Sad…not looking forward to dating at all. Hopefully, they will talk their mind out right away. I am surprised how many men want women to be physically fit which by the way i totally agree with.
So many expectations for the ladies! But I agree that it is super important to look after yourself. NOT for the men. When you look good, you feel good.