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My boyfriend liked another girl while dating me?? I am really going through some troubles. I love my boyfriend with all my heart we have been dating for 2 years and been through a lot. This hurts to type. Recently we have been having troubles and serious talks about breaking up, which has been hurting me a lot. Well, he is in college and I am in high school.
When you got a guy coming up to you saying he wants to date other girls, but he still considers the two of you a couple, we got a big problem. Ashley, who is my Senior Writer, wrote a great article about boyfriends that have a narcissistic streak.
To say the least, if your guy thinks he can get away with trying to keep the romance alive with you, while at the same time pursuing other women, he truly is a deeply troubled guy.
I know you are not going to put up with such shenanigans, nor should you let him off the leash. When a guy talks like this, it is usually code for either he wants to break up with you. Or, he hopes to have you available, but at the same time play the field.
But that is not the only thing it could be. He might just be suffering from a temporary bout of idiocy! Then again, your boyfriend might just be afraid of commitment. Your boyfriend might roll it out there to you in a very nonchalant and seemingly innocent way. Yea, right!
If He Canít Choose Between You And Another Girl, Then Let Him Have The Other Girl
I am not buying it and nor should you. Or he might try to use some manipulative reverse psychology. In such a scenario, he might be hoping you will go out for a night on the town while he sneaks out to see his other little Honey. It is kind of a double win for him because he can run around a bit and also relieve his guilt at the same time. And if your boyfriend is so motivated to pursue such an idea, he may very well stoop to being devious and manipulative to get his way.
Now maybe there are some progressive thinking people out there who think such an arrangement could work. Maybe you think that if you cling to your boyfriend too tightly you might drive him away in the long run.
Well, that might be true in most conventional relationships. There is a dividing line that should exist between things that are acceptable to do within a relationship. There are certain acts within a relationship that should be considered off limits or undoable. This is one of them. Boyfriends are always sneaking around seeing other girls.
Their old flame may give him a call. Or he might see her somewhere and they start talking and one things leads to another and they start hanging out. Your boyfriend might try to rationalize it as purely innocent and might think to himself that he is just being nice and friendly.
He will fill the urge to want to spend time with her. That is the sex urges talking to him. He might want to impress her. That is the ego talking to him. Most guys move on from those feelings. That is the part of his mind that is lying to himself. He figures, he is doing you a favor. Or he might just mention it in passing, like it is not a big thing.
But it is a big thing. It can them to get confused about their own feelings. It is usually something they think of doing because of some underlying issue. They may be scared. They may be immature or impulsive. It could be they are exceptional selfish and self centered. It is possible the boyfriend is unhappy with the relationship and is subconsciously looking for a way to break it off.
This kind of arrangement, even when agreed upon by the parties involved, usually leads to troubled times. Way back in the day like the s there was quite a bit of experimentation with the concept of open relationships, free and inhibited sex between multiple partners, and communal living.
Boyfriend dating another girl
Young teenagers and college kids alike explored the give and take of open romantic relationships. I mean, imagine having a boyfriend who you share everything with. You depend on him for emotional support on those difficult days.
You are friends and lovers. You share secrets and embrace every opportunity to do things together that you both love.
Imagine throwing this other girl into the mix. The whole idea just seems so idiotic given all the pitfalls. But as I have learned long ago, there are many relationship and breakup stories out there involving all kinds of situations.
When Kendra reached out to me for advice, I was happy to help. After all, it is not everyday I can help a young woman slap some good sense into her boyfriend.
And, honestly, do you really want to date someone who only likes you slightly more than another girl? Someone who has to list out your pros. His other girlfriend doesn't care if he has another girl. Do you care if he has another girl? Are you ok sharing a guy with another girl? Both of. Have you lost your crush to another girl? For example, if you have children with your ex-boyfriend, then you cannot simply stop speaking to him, for their sake.
At least, that was my hope when I first heard about her situation. Was he truly so in to himself that he thought he could get away with such a bizarre dating proposition?Can My BF Be Friends With Women?
Was he simply naive in the way of how to establish and maintain a mature relationship with a girlfriend? I am going to give you the top five possible reasons why your boyfriend wants to change the dynamics of the relationship. In actuality, it could be a lot things that is driving your boyfriend to conjure up such notions.
So are your ready! Here you go. These are the top reasons why your boyfriend wants your permission to date other women.
You get the picture. As you can see, I have zero tolerance for this kind of proposition your boyfriend could make. But exactly how should you handle the situation if it should ever happen to you?
But if this kind of crazy talk from your boyfriend should ever arise, there are some practical things you should consider saying and doing. Let start with the case of the foolish, somewhat idiotic boyfriend.
I have some specific ideas on how you should handle this situation if it should ever crop up. For that matter, my advice also applies to the boyfriends who have succumb to temptation or are maybe unsatisfied with with the relationship. By the way, just for clarification sake, I am not saying your boyfriend is a fool or an idiot or a guy who is easily tempted. Nor am I saying he does not want to be with you.
It is going to be unclear what is going on until your probe. Fear of commitment can drive them to do and say certain stupid things. A certain crazy idea can get lodged in his brain. But he may need a wake up call. Sometimes the fear of losing something i. So he needs to know immediately that what he has said and is proposing is so ridiculous and absurd, that such a thing is a no starter. Your boyfriend needs to understand in clear language that in no way would you tolerate such a dating arrangement and that you would NEVER be involved in a relationship in which the man thinks he can fulfill his romantic or sexual interests on the side, if he so desires.
I am not saying you should be looking to punish him or that you need to be mean and cruel in your treatment of him. But rather, you need to get to the bottom of why he thinks this way. Challenge him to lay his cards on the table. Tell him that you are shaken and disturbed that he would even think that you would be open to such a possibility.
Tell him you want him to use the time to think about what he really wants. Set up a time to meet with him again in a week to discuss the path forward. They may fear that their boyfriend may construe the action as being pushed away. But the opposite is the truth. You would be doing your boyfriend a favor by insisting he takes the time to get in touch with his feelings.
Your reaction will reinforce to your boyfriend that you are serious about the relationship and that you are deeply hurt by his words. If your boyfriend wants to bail out of the relationship, then give him the opportunity. It may sound like a risky proposition, but given the circumstances, it is better to head off trouble sooner than later. If your guy has a problem with what the two of you have created, then you want him to put it on the table. The truth, however painful it may be, is better to deal with than the agonizing uncertainty of whether your guy is committed.
Now, if you are in the unfortunate position of having to deal with a narcassistic boyfriend who thinks he can have everything his way, then your are better off just cutting off ties. On that time that I was replying he was surprised then he messaged me back too until we continue talking 24 hours 36 hours unlimited talking through phone, message and video call.
We have lots of time to knowing each other, we are very open for talking everything that we experienced in life sharing knowledge, sometimes sharing sadness and life we cry both to, we laughed both joking etc. Until he said he love me I do to love him also and I accept him to be my boyfriend and answering back I love you too. We build more strong our relationship, even when we are down in life to each other we have our support to each other, advice to each other until we reach 3 years in our relationship, we are satisfied and no jealousy in our relationship because I have trust in him.
Until one day he said if I meet another woman I will tell you and if you want also to meet another man just also tell me. I noticed he changed not just like before only his time with me his priority is with me. One time he said now that you got jealous all time I WIll make you as a silly female jealous. She was asking about date at first he ignored but for the second time around that we got argue on his birthday just like he blame me that I have boyfriend but he have plan to having date of her Co worker.
He go in her home of her Co worker at that night and that night the girl propose that can you become my boyfriend and then this stupid bf of mine he grab and officially on that night they become bf and gf.
And in that night they have sex for three to four times. Then until right now one moths 1 week of their relationship, her gf always contact him everytime through phone and invite her in her big and beautiful house. But still he always told me that I stay in his life because he want me to be her future wife. I always asked him did you love her and he said I only like her. But your my love and I care a lot of you. Because he told me that all of her girlfriend only having a short term relationships and I am the long term relationship that we have.
I challenge him one time that I can find also a new bf who really care and deserve for my time. And he trying to say that I care a lot of you. He fell hurt I know that and he said you drive me crazy you know that.
But still going in her new gf every weekend spending time both of them. I have exercised and doing something busy at work. But please I need your asap advice for me I love him so much but he having sex with other girl.
I need your asap councelling on my inner optional pain.
I was dating a guy who was also dating another girl, which I knew about. I'm pretty sure my exact words to my now bf when we got back together were 'we. Don't be the last to know that your boyfriend has lost interest in you. he wants to be around another woman, and a group date setting is a way. I am really going through some troubles. I love my boyfriend with all my heart we have been dating for 2 years and been through a lot. This hurts to type.
I have never really realized my worth before until now, but I understand there really is no changing an abusive guy unless he chooses to change and that I also do not deserve this. He really seems to not be understanding me. Now I am going through extreme heartbreak. I was fine earlier as I felt powerful and finally felt I knew the truth about myself but I just woke up from a nap and reality is starting to kick in.
Part of me feels as though he will change when he realizes I am gone for good, for some reason I am holding on to that hope that we still have a future because he will change.
There is a reason I always post on this site and others and it is because I love him and I am trying to make it work. I read articles, talk to counselors, I just wanted it to work but it is not going to. I just need some advice. Sorry if I sound all over the place because my mind is. I just need some words of advice to keep from feeling the depression that comes with losing him. You must be logged in to reply to this topic.
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Click here to read more. Think Web Strategy. Viewing 13 posts - 1 through 13 of 13 total. December 16, at pm Katie Participant. Here is the story: Well, he is in college and I am in high school. Liz Participant. December 17, at am So I guess they discontinued their friendship.
Dear Katie: I understand: dropping her as a friend.
You thought that you and your boyfriend were exclusive, but you caught him seeing another girl. Perhaps he didnít feel the same commitment to the relationship that you did, or maybe he swears he and the other girl are just friends. If your boyfriend swears that the other girl he. My Ex Boyfriend Is Dating Another Girl; You're out with your friends one night and you get the shock of your life. You spot your ex-boyfriend across the room - but. My boyfriend has been meeting another girl. been meeting up with a girl from work: I accidentally found messages on his laptop, dating back.
Youthful indiscretion perhaps, as long as the flirting did not extend to the physical. Dear Katie: You were fighting a lot over the other young woman or are there other issues? Anita, Something important I need to add is that actually during the time that he seemed to be liking this girl, we were fighting. December 18, at pm December 19, at am Disclaimer This site is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal, or other professional advice. Who Runs Tiny Buddha?
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See disclaimer. By Kathryn Rateliff Barr. Discuss What You Saw If your boyfriend swears that the other girl he was with was only a friend, talk about what you saw and how you perceived their relationship.
Exploring Your Relationship You and your boyfriend might also have different perceptions about your relationship status. Relationship Lessons Learn from the experience, such as clarifying the type of relationship you have and what actions are unacceptable. About the Author Rev.