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I feel bad. I'm just going to be like Emma anyway. I'm going to go out and not and just be in the present, be in the moment, love myself, et cetera, blow my hair out and just go. I don't know either. Maybe we can talk afterwards, and I can help you with your profile.
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Couple questions. Do you mention in your profile that you have a disabled child? Emma Johnson: Do you feel like you should mention it on a first date? Where does it play in your head in your dating? Kim Thompson: I haven't gotten that far yet, but I feel like I would feel it out.
It's really for me something that I feel like I'm right with in myself. First of all, I have a baby daddy.
He takes care of his kids. I don't need anybody taking care of my kids. I can take care of my kids, and my baby daddy can take care of our kids. We are committed in that way, and I'm very, very fortunate that way. I'm grateful for him, and we have a very amicable ending and blah, blah, blah. Kim Thompson: Second of all, my kids are great. My year-old is funnier than almost anybody I know. I've got great kids.
A realistic look at dating someone with an autistic child. See what's This takes on a whole new meaning for single autism parents though. Your dating life becomes non-existent. Your life is in constant chaos and you fall into bed so exhausted every night that you don't have time to. Money, dating, and parenting as special needs single moms. struggled with her son's autism (and other diagnoses) first as a married mother.
Do I say I have a disabled kid? I don't know. I have to get to know the person first, I would think. Also, I think you have to be square with it in your heart.
Not to be a fan girl or anything, that is something that I've really gotten from reading your stuff and listening to stuff, is you got to be right with you first.
Then this is who I am, and whatevs. That's how I feel like I would approach it. Emma Johnson: It really does. It's like a magical thing.
I've seen that in all parts of my life.
The story I always tell, which is slightly unrelated, but when I first became a full-time freelance writer, and this was like 12 years ago, nothing says broke loser like freelancer writer, even though I was doing really well. Right from the beginning, I made good money. I had a lot of success, but a lot of times I would meet new people, just socially meet whoever, and I'd tell them what I would do.
Emma Johnson: I guess maybe I had enough success where I just owned it.DATING AGAIN?!// SINGLE PARENTS EDITION// BEING WENDY
I don't know ostensibly I was doing anything different when I talked about myself, but people just magically stopped saying those condescending things because my natural confidence got in check. Maybe you just haven't gotten there.
Here's a little tip for anybody dating in the world. Just walk in there like your shit does not stink, and you're sussing out the other person, whether they're good enough for you to see again. You're checking them out. You're not worried about if they're going to like you because that's a given. Emma Johnson: It takes a while to go there. It helps being in New York where there's lots of people, but I think you can apply that to anything in life.
Kim Thompson: I totally agree with you, and that's why I love your work because you're bringing that to a situation that was formerly infused with so much shame, sort of the situation that I'm talking about right now. My mom was a single mom. It was not pretty, and I think that modeling esteemable, forward-moving, goal-oriented, self-loving actions and lifestyle behind that is really key for so many things.
It's your responsibility how you feel about it. Emma Johnson: Right? I hear also that you're very grateful for your situation. It sounds like your ex-husband makes enough where you guys can make this whole thing work, at least for the time being. Emma Johnson: But you were saying earlier Share about because you are technically a stay-at-home mom, and when you're dating, and guys hear that, talk about a little bit.
I did do a little writing. I was a makeup artist, so I can I have done a little bit of writing.
I have done a little bit of makeup here and there. I have enough of a former life that [inaudible ]. I still kind of write. Kim Thompson: They assume that you are looking for a sugar daddy. I'm in touch with my high school ex-whatever. He was never technically my boyfriend, but we I don't know. I love this guy. I'll do anything for him. He probably doesn't even know it came out of his you know what I mean?
It's just a bias. Emma Johnson: That's out there because it's real. Biases and stereotypes become such for a reason, and there are a lot of women out there that don't see themselves as capable of having their own financial success.
They think the only way that women can get by is to marry a man or hook a guy with money. That is a real thing happening in the world. Emma Johnson: Men are screwed by it, and then they get scared when they sense, realistically or not, that that might be going on in a relationship with a woman. I think it's very much upon all of us to straighten that out whenever we see it. Your case, I don't know. Do guys know right from the beginning? Like you said, my kids are taken care of.
I'm taken care of, but here's the thing.
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What are you looking for? Kim Thompson: What do I want? I think I really want to develop my writing and my. Emma Johnson: No, but what do you want romantically? What do you want romantically? Kim Thompson: Oh, what do I want romantically?
Oh, good. We get to. Emma Johnson: You can have anything you want. Just put it out in the universe. What is it? Kim Thompson: Yeah, I love it. What I really love is an intellectual match or peer. I'd like a taller guy, but at least my height. Funny, smart, kind, somebody that I can do the things that I want to do, like go to the movies, go to shows, go to museums, do all that stuff with, have a super hot love life, and somebody who's very kind and chill but also likes to be in the world, somebody who's really a part of the world, not somebody who's withdrawn from the world.
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I'd like somebody to really be engaged. Emma Johnson: Do you see this as being a lover, a new husband, boyfriend, in the house, out of the house? What do you envision? Kim Thompson: Ultimately, I think I'd like a partner. I don't know if I'll ever get married again because I haven't even dated yet, right? I would like a boyfriend.
I would like a boyfriend outside the house right now. I can't move anybody in this place, but I would like [inaudible ]. Emma Johnson: I don't need anybody living in my place. This is my apartment. A, there's no room here, and B, if you're coming in, you're staying in. If you're going to move in, you've got to stay. But I'm not doing the books and the albums again. We don't have CDs, but I'm not separating out the clothing items.
I would like a long-term boyfriend for now. I would say. Kim Thompson: Yes, absolutely, but it has to be you know. Emma Johnson: You want to have some kind of other connection too. Kim Thompson: I can't just be like or else I would have called a service a long time ago.
Emma Johnson: Yeah, there's plenty of services. You could order anything on your phone in New York. Emma Johnson: You can get your dry cleaning delivered. You can get weed legally. Anything you want. Kim Thompson: Get a fella.
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You could get a fella. I don't want. Kim Thompson: I don't want to buy a fella. I would like somebody who's interested in me, who values me, whom I value, who we have a connection. That's what I would like. Emma Johnson: I don't think that is an unreasonable ask at all.
Kim Thompson: Thank you. You know what I really would like to do, Emma, also is populate my life with good male role models as well. I've been thinking about that, so let's manifest that inshall we?
Emma Johnson: I want you to say it without the silly Kermit the Frog voice because you're diminishing it. Kim Thompson: Okay, Mrs. Emma Johnson: That's great. I love it. You know what I have appreciated in this phase of my life since my divorce, is that I have had a number of really true, platonic, straight, male friends, which I don't think I really had in my 20s or before.
It was either there was weird sexual tension, or we just weren't that close, or whatever. It's like there just, for no reason Well, for our own reasons, right. We aren't romantically involved, but they are my true friends, and I very much appreciate that. I feel it's brought a very much richer perspective to my life.
Emma Johnson: So you're in it. You are in it figuring this out, but you have been on this journey for seven years. If you were to speak to other single moms of disabled kids They are feeling burnt out, isolated, broke, lonely, horny, overwhelmed. Give me three things that you have learned, three things that have worked for you that you figured out on this journey.
The first thing is trust your gut as moms and definitely as special-needs moms. We are told that we are doing it wrong, and the experts are right. If you think that was true with all your baby books, you should see what it's like for special-needs parents. You are right. Once you get right with yourself, like we were just saying, then you seek out things to support that more instead of trying to figure out where you're wrong. Kim Thompson: The second thing is, if you can't find community, there is community online.
Even if you're trolling the community and not participating in it yet, you can find lots of groups on Facebook that can help you with your point of view to get support and at least back up what you're feeling. There are special-needs, single special-needs moms groups. They don't work for me because I can't get out of the house, right?
There are people for everybody. Somehow, you're not alone.
Kim Thompson: I think the third thing would be to figure out how to incorporate some kind of shifting of your mind, recentering, getting centered in some way, whether it's a spiritual practice, or whether it's getting in the tub. Some kind of self care is essential. You can't go 24 hours a day. When you get the perspective shift, then you can open yourself up to more possibilities. Emma Johnson: I love that.
The takeaway is trust your gut. You're right. Don't defer. Well, you're in a tough spot. All you want is an expert that you trust to tell you what to do. Emma Johnson: Yeah, so trust yourself. Trust yourself, and not just when it comes to the care of your kids. That's a universal. Trust yourself, ladies. Emma Johnson: Second is, find community, whatever that means. You know what I think is interesting? I've found in my life Your community, in this case, yes, maybe it is a special-needs parent community, or maybe it's a single mom community.
But maybe your community is just labeled something else, but something in that group or that community connects. Maybe it's just like some really sweet old ladies that live in your apartment building that are your community, right?
I've been divorced 5 years, my autistic son is now 8. It has been very difficult finding anything serious. I love my son, he will always have to. But the fact is, for some men, dating a woman with a disabled kid that might I have met and do know a large amount of single autism moms. Single autism parents dating - Is the number one destination for online dating with more dates than any other dating or personals site. Find a woman in my area !.