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A guide to dating the Germans - Expat Guide to Germany . Expatica

DATING GERMAN GUYS

Hayley Alexis has been blogging about Germany ever since she landed in Munich from the US about two years ago. Her YouTube videos about life in Munich have garnered a sizeable following, particularly those about romance in Deutschland. Tall, beautiful, muscular. She soon realized that dating German men may be easy on the eyes, but not always on the heart. While these are extreme generalizations especially since Germans have regional idiosyncrasies , better be prepared before accepting that beer and not wine, that you will probably pay for anyway.

That was before we began chatting more frequently. He is 50 and super young looking. I am He is soooo kind. In my experience, German men will keep in contact regularly but they're not necessarily known for their sweet greetings generally speaking of course.

I think it's a good sign if he's in regular contact and that at this point daily contact wouldn't be usual for a German guy. He sounds great, hope that it works out.

Great insight. I have German ancestry- way back- but perhaps that is where my need to be on time ok a bit early comes from. And as my hubby will tell you, when we met I was very upfront about what I was looking for. I shared my list with him- girlfriends thought I was nuts. But in my 30s I needed that German clarity!

I just love your take on us Germans. Having spent far more time abroad than in Germany I have little German romances to look back upon. Now I wonder if that is good or bad. Maybe I could try my luck with a young at heart old age pensioner in Germany?

On second thoughts Sue - It sounds like your German-ness has followed you to Canada. I think getting clarity when you're in your 30s is a good thing. I did the same thing when I first met J. I think most guys would have gone running, but he appreciated that I didn't want to start anything when we were over km apart if we had different ideas of what we both wanted.

Inka - The Saudi prince sounds more like your style :. Italian Notes. Very convincing and highly entertaining plea for the lovable Germans. I enjoyed it:. Sounds like you found a great one : Love your perspective on us Germans! Love the whole "he'll call when he says he'll call" thing. I was soooo confused when I first moved to Texas and people men, women, anybody!

You just made me realize how German I am despite having been gone for a while now.

Personally, I would like to hear that from the pregnant women who routinely have to “German men like to date girls for many, many years. Learning a few German dating tips, however, can help you avoid making There is a tendency among German men to date women who are. You know how when a woman asks her beau if she's gained weight, . To learn more about dating German men, read Orit's hot new novel.

Sabrina - I love hearing your German perspective now that you're living in the U. I like the German way for this much better, way less confusing and I think I'll keep J.

The whole package actually sounds pretty good! And even then, what do I know?! One thing that surprised me when I was traveling last winter, is that a lot of German seemed to travel as two couples, i. Laurel, excellent perspective of german guys! I am so glad with my german boyfriend, I feel protected and safe, because he means what he speaks I lived it!

I just knew a German guy on the internet. We writoe to each other alot every day. And step by step i felt in love with him and i thought the he got the same way in me as he planed a trip for this Christmas to come to my country. He also planed for our future We were so happy and shared anything we did daily to each other. He ignored my calls and sms after his Berlin business trip last Saturday. We still chatted abit at night of that day, and he said he would write to me next day and he also ensured that our relationship is not dying.

However, i did not receive any news from him later I think we are over, even that we cant be normal friends anymore. I just dont know what really happened with him and with us. I have blamed myself that if i did something wrong to make him angry?

He just ignored all my calls and sms, but he does not blocked me or delete my contact. Can you guys tell me why?

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And what can i do now.? Thank you! I'd ask him if he just considers you a friend or something more. The good thing about most German men is that they're honest - even if it's something that you don't want to hear. Best of luck.

I could have a lot of issues here. Annie - FootTracker. A guy that plans!! Turns head, that is amazing. A guy that is honest!!! I like the upfront honesty you ascribe to German men rather than the juvenile gamesmanship of some other cultures. I was told that a man can 'tell' you he loves you all he wants, but the ones who 'show' you through the little things that build a life together are worth their weight in gold.

Nice story in the Telegraph - Happy Valentine's Day! Tiffany No Ordinary Homestead. The thing about guys not paying for girls kinda bugs me -- I mean where's the incentive for the girl if he's never going to pick up the tab and show he's really into her?

And it's definitely a common thing over here -- although I think some Americans have started picking up on that as well. My German Latin lover inside joke from a stupid dating show on MTV where the girl referred to a French guy as a Latin lover -- cause it's totally close to the same thing, right? And he's more sentimental. I think that any girl who ends up with a German guy is lucky, because they can often be very giving and aware of your needs.

Of course my guy lived in the US for his formidable teen years, so perhaps that doesn't count :. Christy Technosyncratic. This is totally my kind of romance! On time? Does what he says? Plans things in advance? That kind of stuff is amazing. I didn't date so much in Germany, so I have no clue how close the German women fall to this. I assume there is some similarity. At least an interesting read. Though when I go out to the bars with friends and do our normal people watching, it is often hard to tell the couples.

Germans seem to socialize in larger groups. I clearly need to relocate to Germany. I do a lot of the above and it's just not appreciated by Aussie girls. The rules are very much ingrained here. It's too fast and loose, haha. That and, let's face it, German girls are gorgeous.

Ne - Ha, that's funny, I'm actually sitting and working beside two Aussie men at the moment During my two years in Germany, I only dated one german man - a guy who was funny, a planner and took me to probably one of the most unexpected first dates at that time, that is, while being a student.

He picked me up in his car without telling me where we were going and so we ended up in a neighboring town having a very regional dinner with wine in an old watermill, overlooking a beautiful bridge.

I was seriously impressed as I thought it was overly romantic! I think its hilarious how Americans say that Germans are cold and closed off all the time because we aren't. We just aren't fake. I hear it almost every day at work. Most people don't realize I'm German when they first meet me because my dad is American, I have no accent in English, so I hear the gripes and complaints.

I definitely had culture shock in the states with the super friendliness, fake friendliness at that. I never really know what to say so people think I'm the weird one LOL I've had people tell me their life stories after knowing them 5 minutes and I find it awkward and uncomfortable. I honestly have no idea how to respond because I don't know them. As a rule in Germany, once you break the ice, everything is fine.

And if you have no clue what to talk about with someone to get rid of that awkward silence, you can never go wrong with the weather. Germans LOVE talking weather, weird but true. We love to talk but until we know someone, we won't be telling a person about our latest gynecology appointment in line at the grocery store true story.

Zhu - I've live in Germany and still don't find the German language sexy. Traveling in couples or with friends is popular in Germany.

It looks like a lot of fun. Andreza - Glad to hear that you've found happiness with a German guy. The honesty took me a while to get used to, but now that I'm used to it, I would find it difficult to be with someone more indirect.

Ayngelina - Maybe, if he really doesn't like you, he won't bother to say that he'll call, but if he's not sure, he'll say he'll call you, think it over and then deliver the verdict.

Annie - I know right? Come to Germany and I'll introduce you to a few guys : Jo - sounds like you've found a great one and I love the flowers, my hubby is good at doing that too. Too funny that your guy also says that he'll "invite" you, J. Best of luck with your move to Stuttgart, I really enjoyed the Expat Dinner Club you can find it on Facebookthere's also an Internations chapter and I attended IFA language school, which is tough,but thorough.

Linda - I agree, actions speak louder than words and mean more.

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Thanks for your kind words about our Telegraph story. Tiffany - I found the paying thing confusing at first and slightly annoying as well. I agree that German guys can be very giving. I wish J. Christy - Agreed, it would have been boring when I was 20, but in my 30s this is the kind of stuff that I like. Andrew - I would assume there's a lot of similarity for German women as well, but I haven't dated any German women either. Chris - Yes, move to Germany, where you will be appreciated by the women - as long as you don't mind if they make plans in advance : Katherina - That is incredibly romantic, especially for a first date!

Most Germans I know are more pragmatic on a first date, preferring to meet for coffee or a drink. Jessica - I admit that I was one of those people who thought Germans were cold at first as well - until I understood the reason why Germans are like that.

To be honest I hadn't considered being friendly "fake" until I moved to Germany and heard the German perspective. I agree that many North Americans overshare, especially when they don't know someone very well.

My husband has accused me of this as well in Germany, even when I think I'm being conservative with what I say. Germans are also more comfortable with silence than North Americans are - something that I admire.

In a way it's sad that they may call just to say they don't like you but I think that's better than leaving a girl hanging. German specific or not I have to agree that the qualities you list are good to have. I loved reading this. Finding bloggers in Germany that are not German is a hobby of mine! My favorite part of your blog was that German men will call you, maybe if just to tell you they don't like you, because they said they would.

German rules! I imagine it's pages long and I want a copy, primarily so I can check off the rules I break daily. Thanks for the blog! Masha 2away. This is a very funny, but a very accurate description of German men :- Great post! When you put it like that it makes German guys sounds pretty attractive to my German ears : you guys sounds like a great couple btw. Congratulations on having found each other! Mariella - Yeah, I think I'm going to keep mine.

We definitely have our cultural differences, but most days I feel pretty lucky :. Kristi - Glad to hear it. I fell for my now German husband very fast as well. Hope it works out for you.

Keep me posted. I think this is a good article. I have just started seeing somebody from East Germany The most important thing to remember is that German men are unfailingly honest and they do have a strict moral code, well most of them. Those from decent families If my boyfriend emails me to say he can't meet our skype session, you can believe it's true, no hanky panky.

Honestly, he's working harder than ever because he wants to come back to the States to see me. German men are very goal oriented when it comes to work. This guy has financial goals and everything he does feeds into that No, he doesn't profess his love or tell me all the time how sexy or cute I am. That is something German men don't think to do But he is making me a priority by earning enough money to come back soon, maybe spend the winter here and maybe pack up and move his business here, all of which we are starting to plan for now.

I like this practical forward momentum. German men don't require guesswork, and I like that after all the other BS I've seen. And yes he pays for almost everything; another reason why work is important. He's thinking of my finances, it appears. Heather - Thanks so much for sharing your experience.

The Local spoke with an American-German matchmaker based in Wiesbaden to get some (much needed) tips on dating a German. But don't we have a great variety of different types of women and men in Germany? 2. This goes back to the question about dating German men. This is not how things What are some tips for dating a German guy? 22, Views. This changes also the dating games a bit. People feel less bounded to the people they meet online. Even though you can still find German guys.

Glad to hear that you're having such a positive experience with a German man. I agree, being with someone hardworking and straight forward who doesn't play games is a very nice change :. Let me know how it works out for you. Hello Laurel I will be leaving in two weeks to see a German man in Munich. I am not sure if it was because I was brought up by German Grandparents or not but I find my guys approach to our relationship a breath of fresh air. He is funny, smart, passionate in what is important to him, a hard worker, and he does those "little" things that are important to me.

I am not your typical American girl, but raised in America none the less so I enjoyed seeing your insight on German men. It gives me a "general" idea of what to expect while living in his world for 2 weeks. Thank you :. Chelle - Best of luck. I hope it goes fabulous for you. The "little things" are what's important. I found a few of my husband's German traits a bit difficult to get used to at first, but I do appreciate the honesty and straight forward approach.

Let me know how it goes - fingers crossed for you! Gosh, I loved this post! This just checked off all my dude requirements, for real. That on top of being totally gobsmacked by the hordes of gorgeous, polite gents when I was in Munich - maybe this is the sign of where I should move to next :.

Abba - Thanks. I think German guys are highly underrated, although I'm a bit biased :. Aww, this is so sweet! I have a sort of date with a German coming up - now I know what to expect! Love this article! I am Canadian but have been very impressed by how polite and down to earth Germans are. I agree with you, German men are very underrated! Megan, Glad to hear that you've also had a positive experience with Germans.

Katharina Gerlach. Well, I went to Niagara Falls once and I'd have to say that I was appalled by the American side -- so much rubbish flying around, the town gray and depressing and very, very self-absorbed.

Even the attractions had an "I'm only interested in your money" feeling to them. When I entered the Canadian side: tidiness, flowers and a feeling of being welcome Katharina - As a Canadian, that makes me soooo happy to hear that. Germany is definitely very clean.

I hear some people complaining that Munich is "too clean" which I don't understand.

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Hi, thats really funny to read that, because i talked with my italien flatmate about it and he said kind of the same. He misses the passion about love.

I'm a german and never thought about "german love". My ex-boyfriends were very old fashion. They opened me the door of the car, and looked on which side they are walking. So there are a lot of different types here i think. But yes, Germans are kind of boring and reserved. Liane - Oh you must let me know your opinion on Canadian men and what happens.

I find them nice, but kind of boring. I love my German husband, but would definitely consider him reserved, especially by Canadian standards :.

Of course, you're a little generalizing, you know but mostly you're spot on say someone who's been born and raised German. Especially about punctuality. You're better off asking a German gal -- the ones with at least some education know the ropes. Gosh, it's so refreshing to see my culture reflected in someone else's eyes. Katharina - Thanks for your kind words and agreed that I'm generalizing. Also agree that most German women are better than men for dealing with bureaucracy.

My German female friends have been very helpful Only when prodded :. I am dating a German man He is always consistant, which is such a refreshing change Sharanya Kannan. Hi i really loved reading this blog. I had met this German guy in India i live in India,Mumbai for only once and that's 2 months back. We both connected very quickly. Sharanya - Thank you, and I'm glad to hear it's going well.

Don't fret. If you do something wrong, a sincere apology should be enough to make him happy again. We germans don't make friends easily but when we do, we're prepared to take the bad with the good. Katharina - Excellent point! I find Germans are much more willing to take the bad with the good than we Canadians are! If things go well with him when he is here on his holidays.

I like how they flirt in a shy way? I like a german guy soo much, he is perfect; respects me soo much, sweet, nice, and gentleman. Mariam - Yeah, it is shy. Hope you're romance goes well, he sounds like a great guy! I'm an American female dating a German male who has shown me nothing but warmth and thoughtfulness as I am accustomed to in the southern states of my country where hospitality and chivalry rule.

He opens the door, allows me to walk in first, encourages me to order first, speaks about whatever is on his mind like politics and world affairs or work and family, pays for the bill and then behaves totally normal when we go back to the hotel.

We spoke on the phone for a month before meeting, then we shared a hotel room separate beds for a week. On night number four he made love to me. He instigated his move by asking me to lay next to him for ten minutes before he fell asleep. Now I'm going to Germany to meet his family. He's asked me to help him find a house that would make us both happy in a location we have already agreed on.

His family is anxious to meet me and I'm a part of every facet of his world. He flirts with me generously by sending picture texts at night and wishes me a good day every morning. He always does what he says. I have no question he has eyes only for me as his nickname for me is "his beautiful" and all without him ever saying the specific words "I love you. Dar - I"m glad to hear that you've had such a great experience with a German guy and I agree, actions speak louder than words.

I'm actually frustrated with German guys. My experiences are far from O. I do agree that some Germans might be reserved at first, but later would open up. That is what happened with my German friends. But when it comes about guys it just doesn't happen. They are too cold and distant, won't have any details, They don't know how to flirt, they are not sweet nor romantic.

They are not sympathetic and not supportive at all. I know there are exceptions, but in my experience most of them don't know how to treat a woman. On the other hand, I dated an Austrian guy who turned out to be a sweetheart! I later dated a Swiss guy who was actually really nice and funny, we are now good friends. But Germans Beth - I totally get it. I'm now used to my husband's behaviour, but it took me a while to adjust - I also found him to be cold and not compassionate.

The good news is if you tell them and show them what you would like, most of them do listen. That's not saying that they become incredibly sympathetic and supportive overnight, but my husband has made much more of an effort to adapt to what he calls his "sensitive Canadian". Interesting about the Austrian and Swiss guys, I would have thought they would have been similar to German guys.

Love your post! However, as a German girl, I have to say that this is a little to general. Yes, German guys are mostly on time. And NO, they do lie sometimes. Dated a long time in Germany before I moved to the US and know that it's the same as everywhere else: You have some great ones but also some douchebags.

Annett - Agreed, these are generalizations and unfortunately douchebags can be found everywhere. My german partner and I recently have a big dispute. The bottom line is she's very disappointed angry and sad too that I didn't trust her. Now she doesn't want to talk to me for days.

She literally chooses to ignore my texts. I'm very sad because it feels like similar to my previous relationship.

I understand that she has the rights to feel so, but I still can't understand why she's so furious because the reason I did my thing was only to know what I'm getting into and to protect myself in the future if it needs be it's a complicated story : sigh.

Koomar - Sorry to hear you're having trouble with your German partner. From my experience, I've observed that trust is very important to Germans, even more so than for some other nationalities.

I hope you're able to work it out. And then, try to approach your partner by opening up about the things that frighten you. Explain why you didn't trust. Write it in a real letter -- possibly with a pressed flower stuck to it.

If your partner values you a lot, s he will come around and at least try to understand your pov. It doesn't mean s he will share it, so an apology wouldn't hurt. Katharina - Thank you for taking the time to respond - great advice! Hi I want to find out if you meet a German Guy online and he ask you to move in if he mean it. I met a German Guy I have been to talking to sometimewe both fell for one another. I am from the UK but living in the US.

He texts me and tell me he misses me very much everyday. Even the I love you have come in also recently, Germans guys are hunk lol!

Any help would be appreciate Julia. Julia - Mmm, from online it's tough to know. Definitely worth meeting him in person a few times first before moving in with him. Hi Laurel, Thank you for your response! We defiantly planning on meeting one another soon, but my job as a Lawyer is demanding, But he kept asking me when we are going to see one another. They say that German guys are shy but in this case I did not see this.

We talk everyday on the phone he always have something interesting to tell me. I find him to be kind, caring and a polite guy. He lives alone so I am planning on going to see him and stay with him. It funny one of my friends gave him a call because she wants to move to Germany and she says he was so shy when she was speaking with him.

When she told him thanks for making my friend happy he gave a laugh and did say anything else. But I told her he was not like that with me at all, even our first phone conversation. I enjoy reading your blog keep up the good work. Best Regards, Julia. Julia - I'm so glad that you're having such a great experience with a German guy! Let me know how it goes - fingers crossed for you, or as they would say in Germany, "Toi toi toi".

Hi Laurel, Thank you for your well wishes! Today is my birthday, my German Guy did a video recording singing me Happy Birthday's song, I was smiling when I heard it, I think that is so sweet of him. He said to me you make my heart go blind by loving you. My German comes off so loving. I tell him I do not what I will do with him. From what I read it is so different what they are saying about German Guys.

Julia - Happy Birthday! Hope you're having a fantastic day! Your guy sounds very sweet! I can't wait for you guys to meet!

Hi Laurel, Thank you! I wanted to ask if German Guys, when they having problems if they would pull back? Meaning personal or work problems. Have a nice weekend. Julia - I think generally speaking yes, but if you ask them directly if something is wrong, I've found them to be more open than Canadian guys. Let me know how it goes! Hi Laurel, I would say he worked hard in wooing me to get me, because we met online. But now he is more relax now, and compare to what I read German Guys are really not that way.

I asked him as you had mentioned, he told me he was having personal problems, but he did not want to talk about this time with me. So I let it go, and decided when he was ready he would let me know. H e let me know when he has plans to do things with friends and family.

He tells me that I am wonderful and he misses me so much, almost daily. We have not been speaking much because of this, but two days ago he called me to tell me he wanted to hear my voice before he went to sleep.

The time difference is also a killer for us. When he is going to work I am going to sleep, so what I am doing is giving him his space. I also let him know that I am here for him if he needs me to talk about anything that is bothering him he can vent. So I am drowning myself with work, But I must say dating a German is defiantly different than dating an American or Scottish. But all is it a cultural difference.

Laurel I wanted to know if you live in Germany? But thank you for your advice and writing this blog educating us on German Guys. Julia - It sounds like you guys have a great connection, but need to meet as soon as possible.

Maybe you can meet somewhere halfway and spend a weekend together? While it's great to have an online and telephone connection, nothing compares to seeing what it's like in person, before you invest too much time in the relationship. I visited my now husband two months after we met on vacation as I wanted to see what his life was life in Germany and that was really helpful.

I've lived in Germany for over 5 years now. Best of luck! They know how to make you feel badly. If you have to wait until their are accustomed to see you around, It can last one year or more, what means they are racist because like people from community, and not people because they are simple people.

German are moody, unfriendly, conformist, and without sexual hormones, to not say indifferent to all the subtleties of love and tenderness. All the world is romantic but Germans.

Even a Japanese robot is more sentimental. I am not kidding, that is really fucking awesome.

There is not way to describe them without insulting them, because they are insulting all type of kindness with their behaviour. They want only be the best at obey their race, they are very tribal, they have the last model of iapple but their soul are in the medieval age yet. They want only have children for the state, live alone, and practice only single activities.

They prefer a dog than a chat with a foreigner. If you come to Sachssen, You will see all the parks full of solitaries people with dogs, complete silents, no smile, no laughter, The perfect world to be a statue and do only your job. They say they know Peru, but they dont know have to buy a ticket bus in Lima or how to cook a Ceviche, etc.

Leindenschaft only at work and shopping new gadgets. We all know how their are and that will not change. We are very kind with thesedisrespectful and rude tribe. I live in Germany and they don't know what smile means!!! Sie sind hasslichen!! I have never see a couple of Germans kissing in the street!!!! I swear you. Garrafa - I'm very sorry to hear that you've had such a negative experience.

I'm grateful that my experience has been much better. I hope you are able to find some nice German friends, as there are nice people everywhere. I enjoyed your article. I just met a German man. We both work internationally and are well traveled.

We met as work friends but it's a big company so I don't see him very much. I saw him out one night and he gave me a look and smiled so a few days later I asked him out.

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We had a good time and he thanked me, said the pleasure was all his, when I replied thanks for coming. Long story short we had talked about going to a movie. His exact words to me after saying I wouldn't mind seeing it since he had said he was a fan were, sounds like a plan. But he never actually sought me out for a second date. After a week I saw him again and he said yes he would like to see the movie but he didn't know when asking me when I wanted to go.

I said I don't know anytime so he replied he would think about it and I could think about it. I told him stop by my office. Also before I asked him if he wanted my phone number and he said yes but his friends came over and he said I will get it from you next week. Sorry for all the details, but I can't figure out if he is just being polite and not interested as he never came to get my number. He is a genuinely nice person, but a usually a polite American response is a blow off.

I knew enough about German men to pursue him a little but how far does being direct go? In Hong Kong, if we meet with a friend, we can expect a 10 to 15 minutes delay, which is pretty normal. The more the number of people, the more will be the delay. For example, if we have a meeting with 10 friends, we can expect to wait for 30 minutes until everyone is there. So, sometimes it is not like I want to be late, but I know that I have to wait for a long time if I am punctual.

Therefore, I also come a bit later to avoid too much waiting time. If you have a meeting at 1 pm, the German people here really mean 1 pm. After living here for some years, I get used to being punctual.

And when I visited Hong Kong and met my friends again, I was shocked that I was the only one who arrived on time. With that said, be punctual on your date. Germans are like the opposite of the Americans. Small talk is part of the American culture.

Strangers talk to each other in the shops, on the plane, in the elevator, etc. Germans are not used to this. They can be seen as a bit cold to people. If I have to describe this, then Americans are like peaches, while Germans are melon. Peaches: soft outside and hard inside. The Americans can do a lot of small talk with you and seem to be extremely friendly. But most of the time, this kind of small talk is only limited to very superficial topics. It is hard to really be closed with the Americans and to have a more meaningful conversation.

Melon: hard outside and soft inside. The Germans can seem to be very cold and reserved. It is hard to get to know them at the beginning because they may not look super excited and may not initiate talking with you if they do not know you.

However, once you get to know them, they will treat you as real friends. They will open themselves up and have a meaningful conversation with you rather than staying at a superficial level. So, if you see a German guy who is interesting to you, be proactive and try to initiate a conversation with him. Waiting for him to talk to you first may not be the best idea as he may not be that open to strangers.

This was hard for me to adapt at the beginning. Germans are direct. Too direct. Comparing to Americans who like to sugar-coat their words, Germans say what they really think. If they do not like something, they will let you know it. He told me he did not like the food I was eating when I tried to share with him.

He will also be honest about whether he likes the gift. German men are great and loyal partners but how to make them to like you? Read our tips make profile and find your love!. What's it like dating German men? Having lived half a decade in Deutschland I've had my fair share of experiences – some grand, others.

Germans are direct and they expect you to be the same. So, if you date a German guy, expect some honest feedback from him. But no hard feeling. He will tell you his true thinking and expect to get along with you in an open way. In Hong Kong, girls are extremely concerned about their body shape. Because people judge you based on everything. If you see a girl who is a little fat and wears a short skirt, you will hear people talking about her from behind.

Look like some elephant legs! In a hot summer day, my friend still wore a long sleeve jacket. I asked her why. It was already so warm outside. She told me because her arms were fat. And her arms were not fat at all! When you look around in Germany, you can see girls wear what they want to wear regardless of their body size.

They are even naked in the sauna.

People respect each other and do not judge. If he loves you, he will love you as a whole. Be confident of yourself and that makes you more attractive. German guys care about their appearance: they dress properly when they go out; they like wearing shirts; they make sure their hair looks good; they do not go out with shorts and slippers, even just for a trip to the supermarkets outside. With that said, if you date a Germany guy, he expects you to take care of your appearance as well. You do not have to dress super fancy all the time.

But at a minimum, you need to look decent when you go out. In general, people do not associate gender with special roles in Germany. Germany has pretty high gender equality. German people are very independent. They do not think that women are weak comparing to men. When it comes to taking care of the household, it is not just the job of a woman.

Since both women and men go to work these days, both genders are responsible to take care of the household. Though not very common, there are also examples that men stay at home as housemen, especially when their wives earn good money. Another example is that men and women also share the responsibility of raising a kid. The man will also help in terms of changing diapers, feeding and taking care of the kid. I still remember when I went to Hong Kong with my husband and my baby, I was too busy catching up with my friends.

While I enjoyed the time with my friends, my husband was taking care of our kid the whole time. He did all the work for you! And he knows how to change diapers! On the other hand, if a man in Germany does not help and the woman must do all the work by herself, the people will think that this is not a good man.

As mentioned, German people are very independent. Everyone is seen as an individual who can take care of himself. It is common that young people move out of their family when they turn into adults about 18 years old.

Especially when people go to university, most of them will move out from home. So, they have to take care of themselves and live independently. Men can cook, do laundry, repair things by themselves. In Hong Kong, many young people both men and women are not able to cook.

They just get some food from the restaurants as it is very convenient. However, in Germany, you cannot survive by eating out at restaurants all the time as it is not affordable.

You have to know how to cook. In Asia, women are very sensitive to their age.

It is their secret. However, men are not as sensitive. They may even like to be seen as older because it is a symbol of being mature. I heard a story about a German guy who was in a club in China. Actually, the girl said that because she thought it was a compliment. Guys in Asia want to be seen as older and more mature. Another example of cultural difference…. As mentioned before, the genders are pretty equal in Germany.

However, it is still common for the men to pay the bill on a date. Of course, it depends a little bit of the age. If the men are already working, they will probably pay the bill.

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